The source of anger

"Anger is that powerful internal force that blows out the light of reason."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

"At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled."
Marshall B. Rosenberg

"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it."
Marcus Aurelius

How does anger typically surface in your life?

We usually get angry at someone, don’t we? We judge that someone has done something
wrong and we want them to be punished.

In truth, the actions of others are never to blame. It’s our thinking - our blaming and judgment - that causes the anger. And we blame and judge because we have a need that has not been met.

In his book 'Nonviolent Communication,' Marshall B. Rosenberg advises that rather than blame others, we are better served by directing our energy towards meeting our own needs.

He offers a simple tool for change. Instead of saying, ‘I am angry because they ...’ we can say, ‘I am angry because I am needing ....’